Ever wonder why our society is what it is ?

Because of Cindy's oral surgery yesterday, she is on pain killers which prevent her from driving. For this reason, I had to accompany her to her third day of financial aids workshop this morning. First of all we were early so when we went in and Cindy gave the lady her pay check stubs, Mike's pay check stubs, and the many other pieces of information that were required.This lady copied them and passed the copies to another lady who came to tell us that Mike's income was too high for assistance. I smiled as I explained, yet again, that we had been sent to this particular agency because my husband's wages were cut and this company had grant money for the workers of this company and their families. OK the woman said, I will have to pass these on to another then. Fifteen minutes later another woman came out of an office. She would be doing our interview, we were told but she would not be available for a half an hour or so. OK we smiled and thanked her. Sure enough about forty minutes later the woman came back and handed me the copies of Mike's pay stubs. Cindy has made enough in the past six months to be considered a non dependent, we were told. OK, again I smiled.Finally we were asked into an office where Cindy signed papers and was asked 1) if she was pregnant....No ! 2)Does she have any children ?...... NO! 3)Has she ever been arrested.... No! 4) Has she ever been in rehab ?....... No !5) has she ever run away from home?.... No !6),7),8),9), 10).......No,no,no, no, no!
Hmmmm the lady looked at us, you wouldn't qualify as a minor ( anyone under 21 in their eyes ) with no barriers, she informed us ! Cindy looked at her then me then her then me and finally replied, which do you want me to do ? Now wait a minute, I couldn't keep quiet anymore, are you saying that because my daughter leads a good Catholic life and is in no trouble, she is discriminated against ? Well, the lady said..... This is ridiculous, I replied.Let me see if a girl sleeps with everyone she knows in High school and gets pregnant, she now gets an apartment, free medical coverage, food stamps, a welfare check,and now she gets free schooling where a girl who leads a good life,saves herself for marriage, works hard, doesn't do drugs, and is obedient to her parents gets nothing? No wonder these girls are actually happy to be teen mothers. Society is doing these kids a huge disservice !
I guess my little episode made the lady think as she said that she would send Cindy to another lady who could possibly change her status to adult and maybe get something through that way. I guess that word of my questioning behavior got around as I was asked to remain in the waiting room as Cindy was called back this time. After another half an hour of listening to kids Cindy's age talk about their children ,baby daddy's and mommas, and even their probation officers, Cindy emerged from the office. Well, I asked. They found a barrier I was told... OK, I was scared to ask. Here this woman asked Cindy first if she was abused ( after all her jaws are so swollen due to complications of oral surgery) Cindy said no.. Then the lady asked a magical question.... Did your Mom and Dad graduate from college? No Cindy replied... Trade schools ? .... No. They had a barrier, Mike and I were uneducated which puts our kids at risk . ( OK now Mike alone makes enough, even after a cut in pay, to make our family ineligible but because we neither have a degree our kids are disadvantaged? Makes sense to me)Anyway as I shook my head I went with it after all it will get us closer to our goal without Cindy having to get pregnant, do drugs or rob a Quick stop so in the end I guess it is a good thing ! Because of all of this confusion today Cindy has to go back tomorrow to take a test to prove that she is smart enough to pass nursing school once the government gives her money to go. I understand that these are just the hoops through which one must jump for college financial aid but does it make sence that the good kid has a better chance of getting through college than the drug addicted felon, with children's service and their parole officer on their backs? I would think so but hey I am finding out that I am raising my kids all wrong !
I swear , if she is turned down after all of this, I will appeal on the grounds of being discriminated against for leading a good Catholic life. I am sure I will have no problem getting people to stand up for me !
Do we as a society need to give some thought about a few things? I think just maybe... but after all I am uneducated so what do I know ???