Being one( on my soap box again)

This July Mike and I will Celebrate our nineteenth Anniversary. Though we have definitely had a lot of for better and our share of for worse I can honestly say that I love him every bit as much , if not more than the day we married. Mike and I are frequently blessed to spend some time with other married couples. Some our age ( We are usually the ones in this age group married longest) but many much older than we are. One thing that I have noticed a lot lately is how that little fact that marriage turns two in to one doesn't seem to exist anymore. For almost nineteen year Mike and I have lived as one. We have tried to spend as much time as possible together, we only go out together, we only vacation together, and so on. In nineteen years Mike and I have never went more than twenty four hours away from each other with the exception of the time I went with Cindy and a group of women from church for one and a half days to a woman of faith conference.Even during this trip I spend quite a bit of time on my Cell phone with Mike as I missed him terribly. When I gave birth by C section which once kept me in the hospital five days due to complications and when Mike has been in the hospital on a couple instances we both made an effort to be with each other if only for a couple hours. We have also made our children number one in our lives and include them in as much as possible.
Totally opposite to this most couples that we know can't seem to get enough time away from each other. Mike is constantly asked to join other Married men at men only outings. I am also asked to join women only outings from time to time such as shopping trips and such. Doctors and Emergency room visits have also posed a problem from time to time. One Exception is that Mike and I have agreed that he would attend Father / son things such as camp outs with our boys and I would attend Mother/ Daughter things , such as women of faith, with Cindy.
This makes me wonder, are we normal ? I thought that the whole unity candle thing at our wedding ( where he took his candle which was lit by his Mother and I took mine which my Mom lit and together we lit the unity candle and then extinguished our individual candles ) went along with the Bible Readings that this whole ceremony was to join us as one.
I am told that we are "old school " and should get with it but I know that i don't want to change and Mike said that he feels the same.
Now I am not here to judge anyone as you and your spouse have the right to have whatever type of marriage that works for you ,but are Mike and I not also entitled to the same ? This has bothered me for awhile but has recently for reasons that I do not want to go into, has come to a head. I understand that in today's culture many people are living in ways that I would never deem appropriate ( again it is not up to me to judge) but I still wish to live in the way that I was raised and by the vows that Mike and I took many years ago. As far as we are concerned, we are one. So please everyone out there, how about respecting us( with the exception of men only or women only events and then accept when we decline) when we request that each other be present even if the other is only there for silent moral support . We are only trying to live in accordance to our marriage vows.